PARTICIPATION IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN WINNING OR LOSING
Parents always think of their child being the best in the world. They think only of winning. But, they don’t realize that wining is not important but participating and learning things is. Success is not always about winning but being happy with the achievements and abilities. Parents should always take care about how they respond to their child’s attempts in any field and this will define the word success for him and eventually determine the spirit with which he will lead the rest of his life. Therefore it is important to appreciate his efforts and encourage him to participate.
Each child is different. One child may excel in class, the other may be good in some other field. So parents should never expect the child to succeed in every task. This will create undue pressure on him.
If you just emphasize on winning, the child may develop a fear of failure and may refuse to participate or he may become over ambitious and may not be able to take failures in his life. Participating helps the child to find out his own positives and negatives. It helps the child to expand his boundaries and explore more.
Parents should never show their emotions if they are dishearten on their losing. They should always show that they are glad at his attempt. Parent’s reaction can either make or break a child’s confidence. Make your child concentrate on his own work rather than how others are preparing or what others are doing.
It is wrong to comment on the judgement or about the result. Unfair or biased result should never be discussed with them. This will induce negative emotions of envy, jealousy, anger towards the people performing better than him. Encouragement by the parents is important at each step. It is important that parents encourage their children to participate, without the fear of outcome. This will help your child to discover his hidden qualities, make him confident and infuse in him the enthusiasm to explore and try new things.
Keep Learning Keep Growing -Team Aimuno
David Cameron's opportunism was predictable – but the professional inadequacy of his comments and proposals to introduce competitive team sports in primary schools beggars belief (Report, 1 August). It runs against all known research on child development. Children are not ready for traditional team sports until perhaps the last year of primary school at best. What he is pleased to call an "all must have prizes" culture is experienced professionals ensuring that all primary children develop confidence in their physical identity, each optimally developing individual physical skills and coordination.
What is needed is the re-establishment of funding for specialist PE advisers to help primary teachers to develop and deliver a properly balanced, challenging and broadly based programme of physical education – not half-cocked efforts to offer a prep school games programme.
Cameron and Michael Gove propose to ignore the overwhelming consensus of professional educationist advice and proven empirical child development science to pursue damaging personal hobby horses and impose them on a profession that actually does know better.
St Albans, Hertfordshire
• So the prime minister has nothing against Indian dancing but does not consider it to be sport. Has he ever seen an Indian dance performance? Has he not appreciated the poise, balance, coordination, strength and stamina of the performers? It may not be an Olympic sport – but it surely compares with artistic gymnastics and synchronised swimming.
•David Cameron wants competitive sport in schools. This is not surprising: competitive sport is elitist. Olympic Games commentaries give the firm impression that all non-medal-winners have failed. Even silver and bronze winners are referred to as "failing to secure gold".
While children should be given every opportunity to excel in whatever they pursue, be it academic, sporting or artistic interest, it is much more important that they enjoy doing things. Yes, they need challenges to try new things, but so many children are discouraged by the stigma of failure. Ask kids to make up two teams for playground football and watch the inept and unfit being rejected.
A quarter of our children are obese. We need to encourage them to participate in activity that will help them get healthy and live longer. Money shouldn't be spent on training the elite for a handful of medals while local playing fields are sold off and swimming pools closed down.
• Presumably, David Cameron is thinking of the 1950s and 1960s, when such enthusiasms for competitive school sports prevailed. Graduates of such competition in schools sports went on to represent Britain at the Olympics, achieving the dizzy heights of 20 medals in 1960, before declining to 18 in each of 1964 and 1968 and 13 in 1972. The highest we achieved in the medal table in that period was 10th. In the more recent era, with its emphasis on participation, the British team has performed rather better. Britain won 48 medals and fourth place in 2008, and more than 60 and third place in 2012.
• The government is right that certain values are best developed through participation in competitive team sports. Evidence can be seen every Sunday morning of the football season in parks up and down the country as players of not much more than primary-school age emulate their heroes by spitting, swearing, arguing with the referee and abusing teammates for the slightest error. All this while being spurred on from the touchline by inadequate coaches and parents keen to bathe in the reflected glory of their embryonic Joey Bartons and John Terrys. I'm with the prime minister – you can't get that from Indian dance.
• Competitive sport in primary schools will make no difference to the already engaged child; but, surely, compulsion will lead to increased truancy? Running away may not be the intended exercise.